There are times when you’ll need to put yourself first. When things get overwhelming, or when you get too stressed, it’s important to assess these things and look closely at how you feel. Think about how you can help yourself overcome these difficult times, and find the best ways to cope.
Leaving these issues unaddressed can pose dangerous implications to your mental health. Before this happens, read about these effective self-care tips you can try.
Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
This is one of the most important steps you should do on the journey to self-care. When you compare your achievements or your looks with that of other people’s, you deprive yourself the chance to feel good about what you have, and you rob yourself of the contentment when you accept the fact that everyone works at their own pace, and life is not a race or a competition. This person you envy went through their own struggle to get to where they are in life. We’re all just trying to coast through every day. If anything, you should redirect the jealousy and envy you feel into figuring out what you want to achieve for yourself and taking the first steps to get there.
Stop Letting People Control Your Life
There’s a thin line between being a nice, accommodating person, to simply being a doormat to others. If someone is stepping over who you are, belittling the things you worked hard to achieve, and instead fronting his achievements and making you feel bad that you haven’t already done what he has. Remember that you don’t have to listen to people who purposely make you feel bad about yourself. You don’t have to be friends with them, you don’t have to surround yourself with them. Surround yourself with positive people who can give you the support and reinforcement you need on this journey.
Don’t Scroll Through Social Media For Too Long
Social media is great for connecting with people far away from us. If you run a business, it’s actually a virtually priceless, indispensable tool. But you have to remember that social media exists to allow people to put their best face forward. It’s about presenting the glitzier, glamorous side of their lives. Nobody likes to bring forward their drama, we all tend to wanna let people think we’re living the best life possible. So if you’re on the journey to self-care, remember not to spend too much time on social media. Use it to connect, not to feed insecurities. While you’re at it, why don’t you go ahead and unfriend, unfollow, or even just mute negative people on your timeline?
Hone Your Strengths
We know insecurities are easier to notice – it’s like we’re programmed to spot our flaws easier instead of things we actually like about ourselves. Focus on the things you’re good at! Build your identity around the things you’re good at, and the things you enjoy doing. Focus on one thing at a time, hone it, make room for the opportunity to better yourself through your strengths.
Indulge A Little
Retail therapy can actually work! If you ever felt guilty about buying yourself a new pair of shoes after a stressful week at work, you don’t have to anymore. Not only does shopping instantly lift your mood and put a smile on your face, but there’s some research that suggests shopping can ease mild depression and helps feed our confidence.
Find An Instant Mood Booster
Take the time to browse through Instagram accounts that feature cute, cuddly animals. Read your guilty pleasure reading materials – whether is those astrology ones, or even a Buzzfeed article. This can also mean stroking your arm, telling yourself words of affirmation. Or maybe you feel pampered and relaxed when you go through your skincare routine or put on a face mask. Just remember that nobody can stop you from taking care of yourself even for five minutes, so do it.
Keep Up A Healthy Diet and Exercise
Doing these not only keeps your body toned, but it’s going to boost your self-esteem and confidence since working out releases endorphins. And we’re not just advising you to do this for the confidence boost. This is another important way to take care of yourself. Feed your body the stuff it needs to push through every single day – so you can live a long, happy, and (maybe) luxurious life.
Establish Some Boundaries
Be mindful of the people in your life who pose toxic behaviors, and those who only drain your time, emotional capacity, energy, and those who take you for granted. Let everyone know your limits and your boundaries and allow room for respect between you to flourish.