You might think that nothing you say will affect them because they’re just words, but if it comes from a family member, a partner, and a friend, it holds weight. What we weigh and the size we wear are all connected to our self-esteem, our sense of self-worth, our confidence and how we choose to go through life.

And believe it or not, what people have to say about us do matter because it affects how we perceive ourselves. A study published in the journal Obesity a few years back found that people who were trying to lose weight over a two-year period saw more favorable results. Why? There were surrounded by a supportive circle, as opposed to those people who tried to lose weight while being around people who did more harm than good.

How do you know you’re being toxic to someone trying to lose weight? Here are seven things you should never say to them, and we’ll let you in on the ways you can be encouraging instead of unhelpful!

“When’s the baby due?”

Personally, this is the one I really hated the most. On top of not having the ideal body most people look for, as well as not having the body I want for myself, this “joke” is one of the worst. Especially since people assume that the only way you could look this way or be eating that much is if a baby was growing inside you. Definite no-no.

“You don’t need to go on a diet, you just need more willpower.”

If you see someone trying to lose weight and sticking to a diet plan with no slip-ups, don’t ever say this. Many people go through yo-yo dieting before finally finding a plan or method that works for them. Telling them they don’t really need it is pretty much just trampling on the willpower they worked so hard to build up to finally go through with losing weight. These comments usually come from people who have never been overweight or obese or those who are naturally skinny and never had to worry about gaining weight.

“I think you look so much better with meat on your bones.”

The thing is, when you compare someone’s before and after, it’s completely unnecessary. We already spend enough time doing this on our own, and hearing it come from people around us don’t really help our case. We’ll let you know if we want your opinion, but for now, we’d appreciate it if you could keep your words to yourself.

“About time! You really need to lose weight.”

Another variation of this is “Oh, now you wanna lose weight? I’ve been telling you this for the past three years.” Like our decision to finally lose weight should be credited to them. We all have our own paces. Yes, it’s crossed my mind several months or years ago that it’s time to get moving. So I’ve procrastinated. And maybe I needed a harsh wakeup call before finally getting on my feet and deciding enough is enough. But at least now I’m doing it. Don’t rain on my parade! Why can’t you just play nice and congratulate me on my decision to make healthier choices?!?!

“You don’t need that. This *X* diet worked for my friend’s cousin’s friend and all she did was…”

The thing is, the diet worked for your friend’s cousin’s friend or whoever. But I’ve tried that and it didn’t work for me. Or maybe I haven’t tried it, but I’m liking this diet I’m on because it allows me to eat and live healthy without sacrificing the things I love completely. This is what’s working for me. Just because it produced results, doesn’t mean it’s going to do the same for me. I appreciate the recommendation, but I’m not gonna drop my progress on my current diet just to hear you gloat that you’re the one who recommended this and that if it weren’t for you, I never would have started losing weight at all.

“It’s just a cookie. Don’t be so overdramatic.”

You might be familiar with other lines like, “I made this just for you!” This unsupportive behavior not only undermines the effort and discipline we put into our current lifestyle, but it’s also an indicator of the fact that these people have no regard for our well-being. Family and friends who want to see you succeed will support you by not trying to disrupt your diet plan or try to sabotage the progress you made by setting you back a few steps. I know people who are guilty of taking that one bite just so they won’t offend the cookie-baker. But trust me, you have to do things for yourself and not to please someone’s feelings.

So what should you say instead?

Honestly, the important thing here is to remember that it’s not your body, it’s theirs. It’s a different story when you seriously feel like someone’s developing an eating disorder. Don’t try to undermine someone’s efforts if you can clearly see that they’re determined to change and make lifestyle improvements.

You don’t have to recommend a diet, you can just ask how this one I’m on is working for me, or why, out of the many diet plans out there, I chose this one. Indulge us. Most of the time people aren’t interested in how we started the journey and the reasons behind it. More often than not, people just like watching you squirm under their scrutiny, or they get jealous and want to topple the progress you made. Don’t be this person. Encourage us to keep going when we feel like giving up, remind us why we started our journey in the first place, and show us the life we can have after this transformation in our lives.

Because we do know that we should have started our journey some time ago, and we do know some diets work and some don’t, and you should also be aware that no, there isn’t a baby growing inside me. There’s someone new about to come through.

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